{"id":3247,"date":"2023-09-23T15:41:50","date_gmt":"2023-09-23T19:41:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/?p=3247"},"modified":"2023-09-23T15:42:59","modified_gmt":"2023-09-23T19:42:59","slug":"reel-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/?p=3247","title":{"rendered":"Reel Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/p>\n

By Deborah Blackwell<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Stuart Smalley got it right in 1991 when he coined a phrase we all want to believe: \u201cI\u2019m good enough, I\u2019m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.\u201d Looking in the mirror and affirming worthiness out loud to overcome self-doubt, self-sabotage, and ugh \u2014 imposter syndrome, was genius.<\/p>\n

But that was ahead of social media. Before that, we could keep our perceived shortcomings to ourselves, or unpack our deepest fears in therapy. When social media hit the scene in 1997, suddenly, we were \u201cseen.\u201d And it scared me. I\u2019m shy. Plus, what would people think of me? (Yes, it matters to most of us, doggone it.) Not to mention that a never-ending feed of trivial information, like what somebody had for dinner, seemed pointless. I wondered what was going on behind the posts. The backstory. And whether they were even real.<\/p>\n

Enter reels.<\/p>\n

For the first time since the onset of social media, I feel like people got more real. In the last couple of years, the cultural trend changed, and somehow sharing your thoughts, feelings, and life in 90-second videos set to music brought quick hits of authenticity to the table. And I\u2019m hooked.<\/p>\n

First, I watched reels about self-improvement, healing, personal evolution \u2014 like Stuart Smalley\u2019s goal \u2014 to up level my body, mind, and spirit. Then, I shifted to random cat videos and got a daily dopamine fix. My cat-loving family and I now have an entire catalog of feline reels in our private messages.<\/p>\n

Then out of nowhere a couple of weeks ago, my algorithm changed. I stumbled on the \u201chusband-wife dynamic\u201d feed and discovered I wasn\u2019t the only one annoyed by how my better half chews. The other night I was laughing so hard, Sir Husband thought something was wrong. We sat there together for more than a half hour both wildly entertained and validated<\/em> by the Mars-Venus conundrum.<\/p>\n

Reels are pretty much infinite. Any category, any age group, any little piece of humanity you want to see, it\u2019s all there. As I scroll through, I get a glimpse into the big world, learn things about my generation and the gens around me, see things that stretch my imagination. I find satisfaction, feel validated, even happy \u2014 a desire all humans have in common.<\/p>\n

But I\u2019m amazed at how brave people are. They\u2019re putting themselves out there, without fear or hesitation. They\u2019re not afraid to be seen.<\/p>\n

I wish I were fearless.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m secretly an introvert, so I\u2019m more like a wallflower on social media. Having a \u201clow\u201d
profile \u2014 never mind a reel \u2014 in the digital world is about all I can tolerate. I know I need to up my game if I want to market myself, achieve success, or realize my dreams. Social media says so. It\u2019s unavoidable in this techno-ruled world.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s a numbers game of friends, followers, and likes. There\u2019s the disappointment of low engagement, not to mention the time it takes to create posts\u2026or the frequency \u2014 up to four times a day, seven days a week, on five networks to boost your algorithm rank and get on the popular feeds\u2026if<\/em> people like you. Plus, the cultural rules are always changing. Which platforms, what types of media \u2014 photos, videos, clips, reels \u2014 there\u2019s a lot to keep up with. How do people do it? It\u2019s safe to say that in addition to being happy, humans also want to be \u201cseen.\u201d<\/p>\n

I see you, humanity.<\/p>\n

Writing, for me, is a way of being seen, because I write from my soul. It\u2019s a window of words that peeks into my world. As far as putting myself out there, I\u2019ve got a way to go. But soon I\u2019m starting a podcast, so I guess that means I\u2019m on it. It\u2019s not a reel, so I won\u2019t be \u201cseen,\u201d but at least I\u2019ll be \u201cheard\u201d if people tune in. And that my friend, is a pretty good start.<\/p>\n

\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/section>

<\/p>\n

\u201cAll happiness is a combination of enjoyment, satisfaction and meaning.\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>
That\u2019s what we need.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Arthur C. Brooks, Happiness professor
at Harvard University<\/strong><\/p>\n

\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/section><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3250,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[64,48,49,52,66,65,51,32,45,69,79,84],"class_list":["post-3247","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog","tag-acceptance","tag-choice","tag-comfort","tag-connection","tag-courage","tag-empowerment","tag-friends","tag-happiness","tag-journey","tag-social-media","tag-true-self","tag-vulnerability"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3247","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3247"}],"version-history":[{"count":23,"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3247\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3319,"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3247\/revisions\/3319"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3250"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3247"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3247"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/deborahblackwell.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3247"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}